Posting on Mumsnet, a British chat site, a woman in her 30s said her mother told her “out of the blue” that they were “going to leave their house to my brother”, which left her feeling “right pissed off”. She wrote: “I’m one of two siblings and me and my brother are both in our 30s now and we’re both in relationships with our parents. “I’ve been working since I left school…I have an inherited health condition which has made it a real struggle at times, I’m happy with my life and I’m married. We brought our house with sweat and tears like everyone else. “My brother whom I love dearly btw none of this bothers him. Bro has rarely worked ie worked for short periods between addiction and substance issues, divorced twice and now lives alone in a council flat in a block of flats .” Council houses are public housing in the UK, owned by the local authority. Stock photo of a house in Felixstowe, Suffolk, UK A woman posted on Mumsnet after her parents said they would leave their house to her brother for inheritance. BuildPix/Build Photography/Avalon/GETTY The woman continued: “Last week, out of the blue, my mum told me that they plan to leave their house to my brother, in their will, as it’s ‘okay for me as I have a house.’ “I was shocked by this as you can imagine, and mum asked me how I would feel. I was literally in the back and said ‘you do what you think is right’ and I stand by that as I feel I shouldn’t be telling them what to do they do”. However, the woman said she privately felt she “pied right about it” but had been “sworn to secrecy” so she couldn’t even discuss it with her brother. She added: “My main issue is that they are doing this on the basis that I have a house (with my husband obviously) so they assume I will stay forever. “However, as I mentioned earlier, I have an inherited health condition where no one I know of in my family (who have inherited it) has been able to continue working past the age of 55 due to the declining problems it causes. My brother I don’t have that condition, which I’m really thankful for. Plus, just because me and my husband are happy now, we could get divorced in two years for example, and end up on my ear or stuck with a mortgage not I can afford to pay.” You can read the post here. Several other Mumsnet users expressed their sympathy, arguing that parents should divide their wealth equally to avoid conflict between their children. One posted: “Reading this not all is ok. I think you should rightly be angry. You don’t need to justify the situation – your parents are treating you unfairly so you have a choice to make – accept it and don’t chew on it or push back and say “actually it’s not ok, I think it’s unfair and here’s why”. Another added: “I’d take it as my parents saying they didn’t like me much and preferred the brother. They don’t care about your future, your possible illness, how hard you had to work. “They just prefer your brother. She’s clearly an attention seeker and they love that, while you’ve just quietly moved on with a useful life. Cut them down and see if they run after you, if not, let them. “ A third wrote: “It’s so hard when you’ve spent a lifetime of responsibility and guilt dealing with your toxic mother. You have a perfect opportunity to move away from your parents now. “Your mother is playing the old narcissist’s game of using her will to divide and conquer. Just leave them to it. No drama, no letters, she would love that. Just walk away with minimal contact. Toxic parents destroy people’s lives.” However, not all Mumsnet users disagreed with the parents’ decision, with one arguing that it was justified due to her brother’s addiction. They posted: “Your parents are obviously very worried about your DB [Dear Brother] and you’re clearly minimizing his status here, to gain support from randoms. “The fact is that any addiction is extremely harmful and if he doesn’t manage to get clean and stay clean for the rest of his life, his life expectancy is likely to be much less than yours, as the majority of addicts will relapse at some point. . To hold with fair dealing means equal shares.” Users often use Mumsnet to ask for relationship advice or to ask if their actions and feelings are reasonable. In one discussion, a woman who had just given birth was praised for asking her mother not to visit her immediately, as she felt overwhelmed by visitors. Another post saw a woman explain why she refused to hand over her ‘very nice spot’ by the river to a couple with a young child when asked. In a third debate, a bridesmaid was condemned for ditching her friend’s wedding at the last minute because she felt she looked “fat in the dress”.
